Why Can't You Fix it on Your Own?

Several months ago, I got a call from a woman who wanted my help. She struggled with her body image, confidence in her business, and just generally wanted to improve her life.

After our first session, I started to get concerned. It was clear that this woman was a seasoned self-help veteran, having already read most of the books I would have recommended. She had been working on herself for a long time, yet she was still stuck...

I had a brief moment of insecurity, wondering how I could help her when she was already so entrenched in this process. What did I have to offer? What could I tell her that she hadn't already heard a hundred times in a hundred different ways?

I decided to stick with it, and trust that she came to me for a reason. I recommitted to my belief that the Universe is always connecting me with my perfect clients who need to hear what I have to say, in some way, shape, or form.

Sure enough, after a few more sessions, I started to hear those welcome words that let me know things are really starting to shift...

"I'd never thought of it like that, before..."

"I was thinking about what you said, and I had a huge A-HA!"

"I just feel so much more confident. I never would have been able to do that before I started working with you!" (I hear this one a lot, which is pretty awesome)

What genius tip did I share? What secret message did I bestow upon her?

The truth is, I just supported her. I mirrored her thoughts and statements back to her. I gently challenged her old ways of thinking, and suggested ways to reframe her limiting beliefs. I helped cut through the self-help noise, get clarity about where she wanted to go, and figure out what was holding her back.

It's hard to change on your own, because all you have are your own thoughts and feelings, and it's your own thoughts and feelings that got you where you are right now...possibly stuck in an unpleasant situation, unhappy with some aspect of your life, or just dissatisfied with the way things are going and desperately wanting to be more fulfilled.

If you want to change, you need advice, you need a different perspective, and you need a cheerleader.

I'm very proud that my clients see such great results, but I'm really here to tell you that it's not your fault you haven't been able to figure it out on your own. Setting a clear intention to do things differently is the most important first step, and seeking the help you need to get there is the next.

Maybe there's a genius blog post that will give you some clarity, or a great book that will inspire the crap out of you. But if you're in that all-too-common place of feeling like you've tried everything, or just don't know what to do next, you might need some personal support. Just like my client.

Let's get on the phone and talk about what's going on with you. You might be surprised how great it feels to have someone in your corner, helping you figure out what you need and how to get where you want to go. Schedule your free introductory chat here.

Love, Teddey

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