The Best Year Yet
2018...What can I say? We had some good times, some bad times, some really bad times, and then some really good times. If I had to sum it up, I’d say 2018 was a learning year for me. There were some tough lessons that brought me to my knees, and incredible insights that had me inspired and hopeful and feeling like I had super powers.
At this time of year, we all start thinking about goals and resolutions for the New Year. How will it be different? How can we reinvent ourselves? What will be better than last year? What craptastic failures can we leave behind in 2018?
What’s the Difference Between a Resolution & an Intention?
I’m not a huge fan of resolutions, because they’re usually short-sighted and rely on finite spurts of willpower to keep them going. Resolutions usually aren’t about long-term change, but about immediate relief of some bothersome problem. “Ok, I’m creating this super strict budget that I’m going to totally stick to all year long and I’m only going to eat Ramen and by December, I’ll have saved 4 million dollars and never have to work again,” or “I’m going on this amazing diet where you only eat cabbage for 4 weeks and you can lose X pounds and your whole life is suddenly perfect, so by February all my problems will be solved.”
We have all been there, and we know it doesn’t work. We all know the gyms are full for the first weeks of January, and all the regulars can go back starting in February after the resolution-seekers have crashed and burned. Those kind of resolutions aren’t about real self-improvement (learning lessons, changing, becoming different than you are now); they’re about distraction and control.
I’m more of an intention girl; thinking about what you want to accomplish in the New Year, what you want to do and how you want to feel and how you’d like to change. An old-school resolution would be something like, “I’m going to lose X pounds by March,” and an intention would sound more like “I want to prioritize my health and overall wellness this year, to show myself deep respect and feel the best I can in mind, body, and spirit.” See how the second one requires real change, while the former is just a flash-in-the-pan whirlwind of energy that, let’s face it, is super unlikely to actually work once your willpower runs out and will probably catapult you into even more weight-gain and disordered eating patterns. Ok, I digress. That’s a different blog post for a different day (but if you’re interested in knowing more about Intuitive Eating or why dieting doesn’t work -- it really doesn’t -- check out my blog.)
Based on the ups and downs I’ve had this year, I feel compelled to set an intention for the New Year about taking action. I’ve realized recently that my most powerful kryptonite is focusing on energetic alignment and mindset refinement, instead of actually getting off my butt and doing things that scare me a bit. All 3 aspects of self-improvement are important (energy, mindset, action), but it’s much easier for me to sit home and read and meditate and think and pray than it is to get out there and light some fires.
My intention for 2019 is to get out of my comfort zone and make things happen. I’m taking this action because I’m inspired to. I’ve done a lot of healing and learned a lot this year, and next year I will implement my new-found revelations and change my circumstances dramatically.
What will this look like? I have absolutely no idea. And that’s the magic of it -- that’s the big lesson for me, and a great reminder for you. I don’t have to have it all mapped out; I don’t have to have a rock-solid plan in order to take action. All I need is the inspiration to move forward, and a couple good ideas (which came to me easily once I was able to let go of some fear and open my mind to new possibilities).
What to Consider As You’re Making Your 2019 Goals
As you set goals for the New Year, think about whether you’re focused on lasting change and real improvement or short-term relief from a problem. Are the changes you’re thinking about coming from a place of love, or a place of fear and self-loathing? Are you doing them in a way that’s sustainable and productive, or will it require every ounce of your energy and focus until you inevitably burn out?
Here are some thoughts to consider when making your goals for 2019:
Will this actually improve my life, or just make me feel better temporarily?
Am I motivated to make this change out of respect for myself?
Is this change going to support wellbeing in mind, body, and spirit?
Do I have to sacrifice any joy or freedom in order to make this change?
If I accomplish this goal, will I be happier and healthier for the long-term?
Does this goal feel challenging and exciting, or scary and dreadful?
Will I be able to / do I want to maintain this change for the long-term?
What’s Going to Change for Me?
One of the biggest shifts I’m planning on making this year is tailoring my coaching and hypnosis services to reach more people. In 2018, I was very focused on reaching my clients through private sessions, and I’m feeling a strong pull to develop resources that people can access on their own schedule, in the comfort of their homes, perhaps even in a group structure.
I know this year I will develop a suite of services over a range of prices that will appeal to a wider cross-section of people. Of course I’ll continue doing my free daily affirmations, which we all love (Woot!). I am in the process of creating some exciting online courses (Intuitive Eating & Law of Attraction-type stuff) that will be super effective and super affordable. I’m also feeling inspired to develop a group coaching program around the principles of the Law of Attraction (maybe in person or on Facebook -- can’t see the whole path yet, but that’s ok!). And for those who are super-committed and ready to catapult into the next phase of creating their ideal lives, I will most likely have a V.I.P. 1:1 program which will include frequent, direct, and personalized support.
Whatever you decide to do this year, whatever plans you make, be sure you are including wellness and and balance in all areas of your life, and making changes that will support your long-term happiness. (If you feel really stuck when trying to come up with an intention for yourself, shoot me an email and I’ll help you get started.)
If you aren’t already signed up to receive my daily affirmations, please do it RIGHT NOW! It’s a hurricane of positive energy, and it’s totally free. It takes 20 seconds to read the email each morning (ok, maybe 30 now since I’ve been a bit long-winded recently), and I promise they’ll give you a little dose of motivation each morning.
Sign up for the affirmations here: teddeyhicks.com (scroll down to the bottom of the home page)
Email me here: firstname.lastname@example.org
I can’t wait to continue spiraling up with you! Always stay in touch if there’s anything you want to share.
Happy New Year, Friends!
Download this awesome freebie, too: