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Nothing plunges you back into diet mentality faster than the risk of being criticized or judged for your current body by someone you haven’t seen for a while. Here’s how you can handle it.
Intuitive eating is about reconnecting with your internal wisdom about what your body needs and honoring your desires so you can feel peaceful around food. So, when you eat an entire pint of ice cream and your stomach hurts, instead of feeling that shame and regret of diet mentality, you can see it as a learning experience.
Nutrition is important. Exercise is important. Drinking water is important, for sure. But so is balance. So is mental health. And so is something we often overlook: feeling good.
We really want to believe that our problems will be solved if we can just do the thing: get more money, look different, buy that new car...whatever it is that we’ve decided will make us happy. But changing the external world without addressing the internal limitations is like sweeping the dust under the rug: it might look better for a short time, but the dirt is still there and will eventually make everything messy again.
You know how when you feel like you’re eating too much, you think the solution is to eat less? And then that doesn’t really work because the less you eat, the more obsessed you become with food? The more you diet, the more backlash binges you have.
Well, that’s what we do with money, too. The more you struggle, the more guilty you feel about spending. The more you deny yourself. The more you restrict and cut back and deprive yourself, and the more you reach for the credit card for some relief. At least that’s what I did.
I still have those fleeting thoughts about how much better I would feel in a smaller body, or how I would be able to rock that cute dress I saw at the mall, or how I wouldn’t have that fleeting moment of panic when I’m about to see someone for the first time since my recovery. Here’s what I’ve come to realize: for me, being thin comes at too high a price.
Have you ever had a really good coach, mentor, or teacher -- maybe on a high school sports team, an ally on your first job, or just some caring person who took a little extra time to help you with something? What was the key thing that made that person so helpful?
We all need support when we’re learning something new. There’s a lot we can do on our own, but the wisdom and guidance of someone else, who is a bit further along in the journey, can be invaluable.
It’s easy to think that our thoughts and feelings will change once we fix the problem, but that’s the reverse of how it actually works. Your objective reality will change in response to your thoughts and feelings, so deliberately altering the way you think, talk, and behave is the first step to fixing your problems.
Worry is distracting from life and keeping you in a perpetual state of unhappiness and stress. You may even believe that worrying is productive...that if you didn’t worry, you wouldn’t be able to solve your problems and things would get really out of control.
I’ve decided to start calling it a familiar zone, because that’s really what it is. There’s nothing comfortable about staying small, keeping yourself “safe” by not stretching yourself or doing anything new.
"What I got with Teddey was guidance...to come out a stronger, more fulfilled person. I started out thinking I needed to fix my body and ended up making changes in self love and acceptance. It's a wonderful journey that any one who struggles with body image would be lucky to be a part of. I just wish I had done it sooner! " --LH
"I know that this will sound like hyperbole or cliche but working with Teddey has transformed my life for the better. While reaching out to Teddey was not an easy first step, it was the best thing I have ever done for myself. Together we walked through the steps of intuitive eating and got to the heart of many of my emotional stresses. Right from the beginning I was comfortable sharing with her because I could tell that she genuinely cared about my well being and she shared pieces of herself with me. She acknowledged my vulnerability and made me feel heard for the first time in my life. With her help I have been able to end my binge eating cycle and find a sense of peace with food and myself that I had nearly given up on finding. I have also learned through this process that investing in my emotional health is worth just as much as investment in my physical health. If you've been thinking about getting some emotional guidance I would encourage you to take that leap with Teddey." --CP