There's no right way to do this. No script to follow. It's sometimes messy and complicated and uncomfortable. But when I look back on the way I used to torture myself back when I was sure I needed to be skinny in order to be happy, there's no question I made the right decision.Read More
Partners who haven’t had the same body image and food challenges you’ve faced still live in the diet culture we’re escaping from, and likely don’t understand the visceral need for freedom and peace with food that motivated you to take this journey. Or maybe they’ve faced exactly the same challenges you have, but just aren’t at the same point in their evolution.Read More
It’s not about who’s suffering more. It’s just about recognizing that we all have varying advantages and people without the privileges you enjoy have a much different experience in the world.Read More
“I get intuitive eating and I want to do it, but I just don’t know if it’s for me because I need to lose weight because my body hurts.”Read More
We live in a world where it’s just a “given” that we are supposed to strive for smaller bodies, and it’s not possible to be healthy (or happy) in a larger body. Of course we want a peaceful relationship with food, but we’re not allowed to do that until we can get our bodies under control.
Nothing plunges you back into diet mentality faster than the risk of being criticized or judged for your current body by someone you haven’t seen for a while. Here’s how you can handle it.Read More
Intuitive eating is about reconnecting with your internal wisdom about what your body needs and honoring your desires so you can feel peaceful around food. So, when you eat an entire pint of ice cream and your stomach hurts, instead of feeling that shame and regret of diet mentality, you can see it as a learning experience.Read More
Nutrition is important. Exercise is important. Drinking water is important, for sure. But so is balance. So is mental health. And so is something we often overlook: feeling good.Read More
We really want to believe that our problems will be solved if we can just do the thing: get more money, look different, buy that new car...whatever it is that we’ve decided will make us happy. But changing the external world without addressing the internal limitations is like sweeping the dust under the rug: it might look better for a short time, but the dirt is still there and will eventually make everything messy again.Read More
You know how when you feel like you’re eating too much, you think the solution is to eat less? And then that doesn’t really work because the less you eat, the more obsessed you become with food? The more you diet, the more backlash binges you have.
Well, that’s what we do with money, too. The more you struggle, the more guilty you feel about spending. The more you deny yourself. The more you restrict and cut back and deprive yourself, and the more you reach for the credit card for some relief. At least that’s what I did.Read More
I still have those fleeting thoughts about how much better I would feel in a smaller body, or how I would be able to rock that cute dress I saw at the mall, or how I wouldn’t have that fleeting moment of panic when I’m about to see someone for the first time since my recovery. Here’s what I’ve come to realize: for me, being thin comes at too high a price.Read More
Have you ever had a really good coach, mentor, or teacher -- maybe on a high school sports team, an ally on your first job, or just some caring person who took a little extra time to help you with something? What was the key thing that made that person so helpful?
We all need support when we’re learning something new. There’s a lot we can do on our own, but the wisdom and guidance of someone else, who is a bit further along in the journey, can be invaluable.Read More
It’s easy to think that our thoughts and feelings will change once we fix the problem, but that’s the reverse of how it actually works. Your objective reality will change in response to your thoughts and feelings, so deliberately altering the way you think, talk, and behave is the first step to fixing your problems.Read More
Worry is distracting from life and keeping you in a perpetual state of unhappiness and stress. You may even believe that worrying is productive...that if you didn’t worry, you wouldn’t be able to solve your problems and things would get really out of control.Read More
I’ve decided to start calling it a familiar zone, because that’s really what it is. There’s nothing comfortable about staying small, keeping yourself “safe” by not stretching yourself or doing anything new.Read More
It's hard to change on your own, because all you have are your own thoughts and feelings, and it's your own thoughts and feelings that got you where you are right now...possibly stuck in an unpleasant situation, unhappy with some aspect of your life, or just dissatisfied with the way things are going and desperately wanting to be more fulfilled.Read More
For someone who’s used to dieting or following guidelines about eating, this enormous change can feel scary, confusing, and almost impossible. Presenting...A Beginner’s Guide to Intuitive Eating: How to approach your new relationship with food and your body in a gentle, easy, sustainable way without getting overwhelmed or eating Oreos for every meal for the rest of your life.Read More
The problem is that even if you really understand why the compulsive / habitual / binge-eating is happening, it’s not always so easy to make it stop. I kept having this recurring thought that if I could just “do” Intuitive Eating well enough, I wouldn’t be having this struggle. My deep subconscious programming about chocolate was just too powerful.Read More
How do you stay focused on your goals every day, when life gets in the way? This is a quick 5-minute practice that you can do morning, noon, and night, whether you are feeling excited and aligned, or overwhelmed and stressed. I promise you will feel more relaxed and rooted in your truth after doing this, and it doesn’t require any special preparation, environment, or a huge time commitment.Read More
When used as a verb, manifest is how something appears or becomes clear; how it becomes apparent. When we talk about manifesting goals, it’s the process by which your thoughts, feelings, and desires show up in your physical presence.Read More